Emotional Health in Marriage–and All of Life

Posted to our blog on November 12th, 2012 by Tom Mouw
In the On Our Hearts category with 1 comment

Here is a statement and two lists:

“It is not possible for a Christian to be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature.” A

Top ten symptoms of emotionally unhealthy spirituality:  1. Using God to run from God.  2. Ignoring the emotions of anger, sadness, and fear.  3. Dying to the wrong things.  4. Denying the past’s impact on the present.  5. Dividing our lives into “secular” and sacred compartments.  6. Doing for God instead of being with God.  7. Spiritualizing away conflict.  8. Covering our brokenness, weakness, and failure.  9. Living without limits.  10. Judging other people’s spiritual journey. B

1. Quit being afraid of what others will think.  2. Quit lying.  3. Quit dying to the wrong things.  4. Quit denying anger, sadness, fear.  5. Quit blaming.  6. Quit overfunctioning.  7. Quit faulty thinking.  8. Quit living someone else’s life. C

So, have I captured your interest yet?  Last month’s Ministry Couples Conference on Emotionally Healthy Spirituality (EHS) was highly valued by 120 participants from two EFC districts.  The statement and lists above express the essence of the EHS message from all three books on that subject.

My own walk with God has been significantly impacted by the EHS message. I have tried to capture that impact in fairly brief summaries of each of the three books, and would like to offer those summaries by clicking here to obtain a copy of what I’ve compiled for your own reading and reflection.

I invite your comments or feedback on our blog.

A The Emotionally Healthy Church, Peter Scazzero (Zondervan, 2003)

B Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Peter Scazzero (Thomas Nelson, 2006)

C I Quit! Stop Pretending Everything is Fine and Change Your Life, Geri Scazzero (Zondervan, 2010)


  1. My life has been dramatically impacted by two seminars/books, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality (Scazzero) and Sabbath Rest/For God’s Sake, Rest (Jim Anderson). Dealing with the emotions of life and ministry from an acceptance and processing viewpoint – rather than straight up denial – is revolutionizing, but also on-going. And God’s timing has been exceptional, since these truths came just before a season of losses. Praise Him!

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